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The Benefits of Ballroom Dancing
with Dr Iris and Dr Karen Rabin from March 25th
posted: 09/16/2013

Replay of Radio Show - click here—>"Attitude Adjustment March 2014"
Topic: The Benefits of Ballroom Dancing Attitude Adjustment March 23 2014.

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Your Brain's Power and Nutrition
with Dr Iris, Dr Karen Rabin & Farnoush Gidanian, MS, RD from Sept 10th
posted: 09/16/2013

Replay of Radio Show - click here—>"Attitude Adjustment September 2013"
Topic: Your Brain's Power and Nutrition Attitude Adjustment September 10 2013.

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You are guaranteed to leave with two things you can do to change your attitude!
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Farnoush Gidanian, MS, RD is a Registered Dietitian & nutrition consultant.
After completing her undergraduate degree in Biology at the University of Washington & at Pahlavi U Shiraz, Iran, Farnoush received her Master of Public Health & Nutrition degree from Sorbonne University & her Master's in Nutrition from the University of Paris.

As a research Associate at UCLA and UCI, Farnoush participated in publication of a number of scientific articles. She completed her graduate dietetic internship at Cal State Long Beach. Farnoush has over 15 years of successful experience in providing nutrition counseling to adults & children. Her mission is to empower clients to gain control over their eating habits through nutrition & lifestyle education & coaching.

Contact her: 949-533-3557 Eat4health@sierranutrition.com

Karen Rabin, PhD .."Having been in practice in Orange County for over thirty years, I specialize in psychotherapy, gerontology, and marriage & family counseling. I will help you live a fulfilling life, live up to your dreams and feel good. Not only am I dedicated to providing the help needed for you to live a life free from anxiety, depression, stress or anger, I will help you feel fullfilled, know yourself better and be free from pain. Through experience, understanding and empathy, I am a therapist who can provide thoughtful and practical solutions.

Contact Dr Karen Rabin (949) 439-5105 karenrabinphd@sbcglobal.net
Dr Iris Rosenfeld 25255 Cabot Rd Ste 110 Laguna Hills, Ca 92653 949-380-7215 dr.iris@earthlink.net www.driris.com


Happy Holidays!
by Karen Rabin PhD MFT
posted: 12/08/2012

Happy holidays! You know, it seems that along with the good cheer and warmth of the holidays comes an undue amount of stress and depression. I see it every year. Some of us feel anxious and overwhelmed at spending time with family members who conjure up complex emotions. Others feel increasingly lonely, especially if they spend the holidays alone. The important thing to do is to really listen to yourself and set personal limits.

Remember that your feelings matter. There can be a lot of pressure to feel like we need to please others during the holidays, but remember that it is okay to do what is best for YOU. Don't concern yourself with pleasing others. This year already, I have talked with many patients who are unsure about how to cope with the familial pressure of the holidays. Take my patient, Ann, for example. Ann is forty-two years old and suffers from major depression and posttraumatic stress disorder. She was planning to take the train from Orange County to San Diego to spend time with her father and his new family. Although Ann's father wants her to share in his new life with his new wife, this is very stressful for her. She would feel much more comfortable spending a quite thanksgiving at home with her boyfriend. After all, she is recovering from posttraumatic stress and needs this break from work to take some "me time." Although Ann knew that it would be difficult for her, she felt guilty by not going to visit her father. In the end, she gave up her own well being to travel down to San Diego. As a result, she ended up having a panic attack and came home early.

If she had put more value in her own needs, rather than give them up to please her father, she would have avoided this mishap. Don't make the same mistakes that Ann made. This holiday season, take your personal needs into consideration. Set limits and be realistic about what you can tolerate emotionally. It's the best gift you can give yourself.

For more tips on how to cope with the stress of the holidays, check out this link to the Mayo Clinic: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress/MH00030  

 


 

Finding A Therapist
by Karen Rabin PhD MFT
posted: 10/24/2012

It can be overwhelming when trying to find a psychologist. How do you know who is right for you? Do you want someone who is going to spend more time examining past experiences or someone more focused in the present? Do you benefit more from an experiential approach, or do psychoanalytical methods hold more sway with you? Here are a few things to keep in mind when looking for a therapist.


It's a relationship

It's very important to remember that it's not just your issues or your psychologist's tactics: it's the combination of the two. You must feel comfortable with you therapist. If you are unable to open up completely, feel embarrassed, or in any way unsafe, then it may be time to find someone else.


Male or female?

Some people feel uncomfortable with a doctor of the opposite sex, especially when it comes to opening up about relationship issues. It is important to ask yourself these questions. Do you think you would be comfortable with a same-sex therapist? It can be a little more complicated than this, however. If you really have issues dealing with members of the opposite sex, than seeing a therapist of that sex may be just the challenge you need to get you out of your comfort zone and push you to grow.


Are they challenging you enough? Too much?

Remember, you don't want your doctor to be your best friend. No matter how comfortable you feel with this person, you want them to be helping you along. All too often, people spend years in therapy, and although they enjoy the experience, wind up disappointed that they haven't grown more. Therapy should be a challenge. Your psychologist should be helping you set goals and giving you the tools to reach them. We want to be pushed out of our comfort zones, but not too much. Being pushed too far can actually impede growth or lead to new problems. It is all about finding that "just right" balance between supportive and challenging.


Are you willing to do the work?

Think of therapy as piano lessons. Your piano teacher can show you all the scales there are, but you'll never learn them if you don't practice at home. Therapy is a guideline, a light bulb, a path, and a coach: it is there to help you take action in your life. There more you put in to it, the more you will get. Don't think that your therapist can give you a magic wand to make all your problems go away. It is only through introspection and action that true growth is possible.